• Wednesday, June 7, 2017 3:12 pm

    What is Findom? A submissive man explains the fetish

    “Findom is merely another form of escapism for people who struggle with everyday life in this bizarre cash- and self-obsessed modern society”

    Of all the sexual fetishes in the world, financial domination has perhaps one of the most glamourous images.

    Beautiful women are sent money and lavished with expensive gifts by men who want next-to-nothing in return – it’s all about submitting to the dominant woman and relinquishing control over your finances. Much like physical forms of BDSM, it’s this surrendering of power that is arousing. But in the majority of cases, the dominatrix (domme) and the submissive never meet – it’s all done online.

    Some financial domination (or findom) relationships consist of one-off payments, others are regimented regular transferrals of money and some men even hand over passwords and total control of their bank accounts to a domme, asking her to devise a minimal budget too.But what’s the attraction for the men? We asked a self-proclaimed submissive – or “cash-pig,” as the men are known – to explain.

    “The arousal factor comes from the thought of the domme invading the personal space that is your finances,” Steve* explains. “People measure their self worth with their money and so utilise it as a method of psychological self harm.” Indeed, in our society we are largely defined by our money, and it’s often the marker men use to compare themselves to others.

    “Financial domination scoops up this notion of human beings and weaponises it as something kinky. It’s intimacy, in a very capitalistic and masochistic way,” Steve explains. He believes that most submissives get into findom due to low self-esteem, and they have an “inability to deal with rejection, humiliation, loneliness, fear of being unwanted and redundant in today’s rapid-paced society.” According to Steve, when a submissive is discussing the transfer of money with his domme, he enters “the zone” which is “where he is free from all his woes and worries,” and becomes aroused.

    “But as soon as that’s over he comes crashing back down to earth with a hole in his wallet and a head full of regret,” Steve tells The Independent.

    “Findom is merely another form of escapism for people who struggle with everyday life in this bizarre cash- and self-obsessed modern society.”

    Another reason many men get into findom is purely because they so rarely get the opportunity to talk to a woman one-on-one, and that’s all they want. The dommes aren’t kind to the so-called ‘cash-pigs,’ but most of the men would rather pay to be spoken down to by a woman than be ignored entirely. A typical submissive would be a young man under the age of 35, but there are older men into findom too. Steve says some have families and partners too.

    Most men find their dommes through websites such as and Twitter, where young women advertise their services. It’s considered easy money, but this means supply now outstrips demand, according to Steve. Whilst findom used to be just another service that a traditional dominatrix would offer and it was thus very niche and inaccessible, the advent of the internet has revolutionised the scene.

    “All you need is a twitter account, a means of accepting payment, a few selfies of you acting rebellious and defiant and the confidence to hurl a few insults to strangers over the internet,” Steve explains.

    He says that findom in 2017 is defined by the plethora of young woman bragging aggressively on Twitter, but adds that “there is a stark difference between a financial dominatrix and a mean girl demanding money.

    “The former is in fact much much rarer, despite many declaring that they are one.”

    True, the top dommes spend years establishing their personas and honing their skills that make men want to send them money – and become aroused doing so.

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